It wasn’t that bad, though!” 8 Being totally cool af: I was 30 when I first had proper sex, and half the reason I spent so long waiting was because the thought of doing it for the first time just got more terrifying with every year older. “I was really embarrassed about being so inexperienced. like, I now know talking through sex is bad anyway. “He spent most of my first time talking to me about how amazing he is and how his ex-boyfriend has an amazing job as a doctor.